When you call in 10 miles west of a north/south runway configuration 20k feet above where you should be, it is not a missed approach when the Approach controller is routing you so as to give you time to lose the altitude.
You’re not going to intercept at FL170, so announcing a missed approach because you’re not being allowed to cut in front of those that are not at altitudes which can only be described as ludicrous doesn’t mean anything.
A missed approach is when you miss your intercept. Not when you just don’t understand how altitude works. The approach controller is perfectly aware of where the cone is, don’t worry. I don’t understand the obsssion with expecting the distance from TOD to intercept to be 10 nm when traveling at 500 knots GS, but if you feel you must do that, at the very least, add to it a little comprehension that you’re only hurting yourself. 360s at the point of intercept isnt happening, because that interferes with pilots who aren’t flying so rediculously.
You have two options: continue flying like you are and accept that you have to cover some distance to lose the altitude or, even better, learn how to descend. But stop telling Approach that you’re executing a missed approach when you’re nowhere near the cone and close to 20k feet in the air. This happens nearly every session and it’s mind-boggling.
BTW, EMA isn’t a release from vectoring. The controller follows it with vectors. Which…are going to be the same. So this thought that you get to announce EMA then fly wherever you want is not Kosher anyway. The point of the RADAR controller is that he works with all of the traffic. There’s a plan. And if you want to come in high and hot, that’s your prerogative. But you have to be willing to accept the end result of doing so, which is you being sent on a scenic route (or held) until you’re down where you need to be. The other 15 planes don’t disappear simply because you refuse to learn how to descend. I’m more than happy to take you through the descent if that’s what you need. But it isn’t going to be at others’ expense. It’s going to be at yours.
Or you could just descend before arriving. There’s always that.